New Marriage Vows

Do you solemnly swear to make an honest attempt to tolerate this person for the rest of your life?  To deal with all of the the problems and issues that this person has but never make this person deal with any of your problems or issues? Do you swear to Always be there for this person in every way that this persons wants, but never expect this person to be there for you in any way?  Do you swear to Love this person without expecting love in return? Will you promise to never ask this person to make any effort to turn this marriage into a friendship? Do you promise to never look for an emotional investment? Attention? Affection? Will you promise to never complain when you wake up and realize that the love you looked for all of your life was a big misconception and that it never existed. Will you realize that marriage is not a partnership but a place where people exist in separate spaces of the same home and create children and bills that create more problems in the marriage? And do you promise that when this person leaves you, to walk away knowing that all of this was in the fine print on your marriage license? 

I now pronounce you Mr. and Mrs. Hurt & Confused.

What we hear...

So my wife and I went to dinner with a deaf couple. We are both learning sign language but my wife uses it a lot more than I do so she signs a lot better. It was a very interesting experience trying to express myself the best way I can using only facial expressions and my hands to communicate with someone. I really enjoyed myself despite being very nervous because of my lack of signing ability.  

We left the restaurant and went to Starbucks to get some coffee. I'm not saying much, neither is the husband. However, his wife and my wife were chopping it up like old friends. As we were about to leave, I happened to hear a Stevie Wonder song playing from the speakers in the store. This really fucked me up! I take for granted that I am able to hear and enjoy so many different types of music and the emotions that the music evokes. I couldn't imagine missing out on such an important piece of my life.  This couple, however, can't experience the feeling of listening to the emotion of Donny Hathaway singing "For All We Know," or the passion that John Coltrane puts into a song he wrote for his first wife, "Naima,"or the first time I discovered who J Dilla was and the way his music makes you nod your head uncontrollably. Seeing a concert performance of Fela Kuti and James Brown together would not mean anything to someone who cannot hear how brilliant these musicians were.  

There is an importance to everything we have the ability to do. One we should not take for granted but we always do. This makes me listen to music differently. This makes me appreciate the experience so much more. I hope I never take the gift of music for granted again.

...kinetik

Free Think Intro...

So this is it. I haven't written in about 10 years. Crazy huh? Well, shit is about to change! This is a new beginning for a new year. We'll have music reviews, stress relief, interviews, discussions. We'll even post audio interviews and music downloads. All free thinking to challenge your mind and try to take you out of your comfort zone. Expansion! That's what its about. For me and for you. This is where it starts. Enjoy, send feedback, do whatever...